i just read a washington post article on romcoms aging poorly due to the pushiness (and oft-stalkery conduct) of the male characters therein, and it got me thinking about pride and prejudice, and specifically darcy saying, “one word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

because, like, that’s the seldom-portrayed romantic dream in the patriarchal hellscape that is our world, isn’t it?

a dude being willing to say, “i understand if you don’t feel the same way about me, and i’ll leave you alone forever about this if my attention is unwanted.”

so simple, yet so wonderful in its basic human decency

It’s also worth mentioning that this isn’t a change in him. He begins his letter with a frosty assurance that this isn’t about pressuring her, and also it’d really be best if they mutually forgot about the whole thing, but he does have to defend himself against her accusations, and concludes with wishing her the best (as he also concluded their fight at Hunsford). The only reason they ever meet again is because Elizabeth shows up on his front lawn.